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Why Doesn't She Just Leave?

"Why doesn't she just leave?" This may be the most common question asked about domestic violence. It can be a particularly difficult concept to understand for those of us in the self-defense field who are focused on helping women learn to fight back physically against an aggressor. What keeps these women mired in a relationship where they are being abused emotionally, physically, and possibly sexually? And what can we do to help them? While each abusive relationship is unique, there are many commonalities. Physical abuse is only a small piece of the larger puzzle; the threat of violence is what allows a perpetrator to maintain all of the other abusive behaviors he engages in. There is